Mom and Father in law (FIL) moved into independent living in 2017, assisted living in 2019, FIL died in 2025, mom now in adult care home.
Monthly Costs:
Independent (1 bedroom) - $4k base + $2k second person
Assisted (1 bedroom) - $5k + $2k, care costs $2k+ each.
2025 FIL required 2 person care - he alone was $15k/month
2026 Mom alone (studio) - $5k + 3k
2026 she went outside 2x alone, gave her 2 days to move to Memory Care ($11k) or out.
Moved her to an Adult Care Home (5 residents) with her own bedroom and bathroom - $8k.
Care Staff:
Statewide the staff turnover rate is 53%.
Many are caring people, but turnover rate creates gaps as existing staff have to train and oversee new staff.
Smartphone addiction is an issue for staff.
Lets Get Real:
All living things get ill, grow old, die.
Wall Street gets wealthy from healthcare, pharmaceuticals and care facilities, taking up to 20% off the top.
The US needs a national public system with a MAID program like Canada.
I suspect that if the reality of the current state of elder care in the UK is bad, then in the US it must be approaching appalling, especially if you weren't born lucky. It has always amazed me that many supposedly democratic societies, whilst recognising that we all get born, grow up, grow old and then die, don't seem able to comprehend that the ways these things happen are not set in stone. Any caring society worthy of the name should be using appropriate revenue from across the entire breadth of its constituent membership to ensure the availability of support at whatever stage of life it might become necessary, especially since knowing who is going to need what, when, is a lottery.
","date":"01 June 2026 5:25pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T16:25:06Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174790274","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174790274","numResponses":0,"numRecommends":3,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"13952083","displayName":"fraser48","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/13952083","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/13952083","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/13952083","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/13952083","badge":[]}},{"id":174790164,"body":"Dick Advocaat as manager and a complete underdog What’s not to love about Curaçao
","date":"01 June 2026 4:58pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T15:58:47Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174790164","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174790164","numResponses":0,"numRecommends":5,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"10325327","displayName":"nickp91","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/10325327","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/10325327","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/10325327","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/10325327","badge":[]}},{"id":174789882,"body":"Amazing team, Amazing manager.
Final.
I appreciate the highlighting this article brings. I would nudge you to look into just how much entertainment filming Markiplier has done the past 6 years however. He made several sizable projects before Iron Lung. Although in a format not built for the big screen per se, they are a far cry from just gaming.
","date":"01 June 2026 3:44pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T14:44:59Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174789698","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174789698","numResponses":0,"numRecommends":4,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"101405029","displayName":"Raugur","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/101405029","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/101405029","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/101405029","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/101405029","badge":[]}},{"id":174789844,"body":"Iron Lung could've done with 20-25 minutes chopped out of it. I admire the clever use of one set and one lead actor.
","date":"01 June 2026 4:07pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T15:07:04Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174789844","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174789844","numResponses":0,"numRecommends":1,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"110970693","displayName":"TaffRaffia","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/110970693","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/110970693","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/110970693","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/110970693","badge":[]}},{"id":174789815,"body":"Curry Barker's 'Milk & Serial' (available for free on YouTube) is an absolute marvel given the budget and just shows how far ingenuity, a decent script and a game crew/cast can take you.
","date":"01 June 2026 4:02pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T15:02:39Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174789815","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174789815","numResponses":0,"numRecommends":0,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"3081385","displayName":"TeeDubyaBee","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/3081385","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/3081385","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/3081385","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/3081385","badge":[]}},{"id":174789758,"body":"A notable match in the Aztec stadium for me was the Mexico/Canada playoff in September (or maybe October) 1980 because I was there. I was in Mexico at the beginning of my year abroad from Birmingham University, where I studied Spanish.
With a Mexican friend I went to the game. Mexico had to win to progress to the next round of qualifying. Canada needed to draw. At the time, the stadium capacity was much bigger and there was around 110,000 at the game. Now I am tall and, when I was 20, had bright ginger hair so clearly not Mexican.
Mexico took an early lead and the crowd went wild. Canada, however, equalised around the 70th minute (iirc). At this point I started to get a lot of attention from those around me but my friend reassured me that nothing would happen at all, which turned out to be correct.
I had some abuse hurled at me from a paasing car passenger as we made our way towards a bus stop after the game and that was it. It was a very enjoyable occasion for me apart from Mexico failing to progress. The next time I went, a few weeks later, was for a club game with about 25,000 in attendance. Quite a difference!
The stadium in Seattle is walking distance from Downtown hotels. If you want to feel you're getting the full USA experience though, you could pay $3 for a 3-stop train ride. Imagine--$1 per stop, shocking price gouging!
","date":"01 June 2026 3:18pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T14:18:26Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174789557","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174789557","numResponses":3,"numRecommends":6,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"3712351","displayName":"SeyboldP","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/3712351","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/3712351","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/3712351","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/3712351","badge":[]}},{"id":174789475,"body":"I was so into the whole Britpop/Indie (whatever you want to bracket it as) scene and devoured the gigs and music and magazines, got the haircut and clothes. Too cool for school I thought. But when I look back now, lots of it really was shite. How did such and such sell out that venue? That song made Top 10?? Why did I wear that?
This one wasn’t one of those. Love this song
Rock 'n' (sourdough) roll that they now hang out at Farmer's Markets.
","date":"01 June 2026 3:05pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T14:05:37Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174789475","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174789475","numResponses":1,"numRecommends":6,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"12163973","displayName":"catchytitled","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/12163973","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/12163973","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/12163973","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/12163973","badge":[]}},{"id":174789499,"body":"What a band, what a song. Seen them everytime they play up in Scotland and they never disappoint. Never Going Nowhere is my personal favourite but with so many bangers it's a difficult choice.
","date":"01 June 2026 3:09pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T14:09:17Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174789499","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174789499","numResponses":1,"numRecommends":7,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"13019986","displayName":"moemanmoe","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/13019986","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/13019986","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/13019986","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/13019986","badge":[]}},{"id":174782878,"body":"Come on Les Éléphants!
Stick to the tusk in hand and stampede your way out of this group, be bullish!
","date":"01 June 2026 8:42am","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T07:42:50Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174782878","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174782878","numResponses":4,"numRecommends":6,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"4252909","displayName":"LouisLou","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/4252909","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/4252909","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/4252909","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/4252909","badge":[]}},{"id":174784999,"body":"I feel like he is the culmination of decades of transformational players. Would Wemby be who he is without Magic Johnson showing bigger guys can handle and pass? Steph Curry stretching the boundaries of how far behind the arc to take a 3? Dirk Nowitzki showing 7 footers can shoot 3s?
With all those players, as amazing as they were, you could imagine what the next level might look like. If Wemby continues to perfect all the elements of his game, it is hard to comprehend what an evolution beyond him would look like.
It is really pleasing when you have sports stars like this that are also impressive individuals as the article points to. Exciting times to watch basketball.
","date":"01 June 2026 11:15am","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T10:15:37Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174784999","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174784999","numResponses":1,"numRecommends":11,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"112610922","displayName":"SteerMug","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/112610922","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/112610922","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/112610922","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/112610922","badge":[]}},{"id":174784797,"body":"There are very few antecedents to Wemby. A guy like Duncan was comparably good at a similar age ... O'Neal was equally a freak, though not in as versatile a way. But no one has as much of everything as Wemby - skill, size, drive, guile.
The closest comparison to his overall profile I can think of is Ralph Sampson, who like other very tall players had a career blighted by injury. But Wemby is better than him, with an evolved skillset, and a warrior's mind. If he can stay healthy, for even a half dozen years he is destined to leave a lasting mark on the game, become a champion, and likely a hall of famer.
","date":"01 June 2026 11:05am","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T10:05:25Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174784797","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174784797","numResponses":2,"numRecommends":6,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"109244959","displayName":"IJustReadTheHeadline","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/109244959","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/109244959","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/109244959","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/109244959","badge":[]}},{"id":174789456,"body":"I'll be turning 84 in August. I agree: everything starts slowing down. Physically and mentally; we may be \"relatively\" healthy -- I go to the gym twice a week, do the crossword every morning (the Guardian Quick is a good diagnostic tool for mental status), walk 6 km most days, read a lot and try to keep up with tne news (though there are mornings when I can't deal with it). But my stamina isn't what it was even ten years ago, not to mention when I was young. I certainly wouldn't want to undertake the awesome and terrifying responsibility of the job that Trump seems to dismiss as trivial, something to be done by posting hate-screeds against enemies foreign and domestic, in the middle of the night.(No wonder he dozes off during the daytime!)
That said, in some people at our age this loss of vitality and stamina is offset by a degree of wisdom acquired over the years. But I doubt that can be said about Mr Trump; he's exactly what he's been all his life, only more so.
One of my all-time favourites in so many respects. I recognise the backstreet scenery, landscapes & culture depicted. The accents belong to my father. Best of all, the expressions of anger, frustration or simple exhileration through the music & dance are so identifiable. My only wish, every time I watch it - I want to see him dance the full ballet at the end. That leap is breathtaking, every single viewing.
","date":"01 June 2026 1:19pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T12:19:50Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174787640","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174787640","numResponses":1,"numRecommends":7,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"17756038","displayName":"Choseabetterlife","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/17756038","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/17756038","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/17756038","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/17756038","badge":[]}},{"id":174786299,"body":"I watched Billy Elliot on DVD yesterday. Having just seen Top Hat on BBC 4 I recalled that somewhere in Billy Elliot there was a brief sequence of Fred Astaire dancing taken from the film , and this made me want to revisit Billy.
The film has no particular personal resonance with me, I love it because of how well it illustrates several issues, Billy’s desire to dance and the reactions to it, the strike, and the fear and anger evoked. Yet the film is entertainment, but entertainment with a real punch. Excellent script, acting and direction. Interesting and likeable people. And there’s plenty of humour. And great music, T Rex and a bit of Tchaikovsky.
Altogether one of my all time favourites, entertains and really pulls at the heartstrings. Wonderful.
If Mexico and England win their groups, they could meet in the round of 16 at the Azteca Stadium in Mexico City: that will be a humdinger of a game !!
","date":"01 June 2026 1:51pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T12:51:50Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174788201","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174788201","numResponses":0,"numRecommends":7,"isHighlighted":true,"userProfile":{"userId":"15905535","displayName":"coyotesong33","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/15905535","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/15905535","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/15905535","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/15905535","badge":[]}},{"id":174787415,"body":"I managed to get a ticket for the Scotland v Morocco game, and will be travelling there with five mates. As mentioned by others, the stadium is a good hour and a half from Boston, but as we are there for five days, we are spending time in Boston and Providence (Rhode Island). Inflated costs but we were all in France for Scotland’s last appearance in 1998 (as young men in our early 20s!) and we all wanted to make this one, even though we are 50/51 now.
","date":"01 June 2026 1:07pm","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T12:07:47Z","status":"visible","webUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174787415","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174787415","numResponses":3,"numRecommends":5,"isHighlighted":true,"responseTo":{"displayName":"Hectormandarin","commentApiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/comment/174786908","isoDateTime":"2026-06-01T11:43:29Z","date":"01 June 2026 12:43pm","commentId":"174786908","commentWebUrl":"https://discussion.theguardian.com/comment-permalink/174786908"},"userProfile":{"userId":"11884603","displayName":"Jimmy_Neutron","webUrl":"https://profile.theguardian.com/user/id/11884603","apiUrl":"https://discussion.guardianapis.com/discussion-api/profile/11884603","avatar":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/11884603","secureAvatarUrl":"https://avatar.guim.co.uk/user/11884603","badge":[]}},{"id":174785177,"body":"Thanks for awakening the inner 11 year old kid within me - the one who studied all the grounds in Spain before and during the 1982 World Cup.
Something about geography and football stadiums just lights something up inside me so this piece has got me more in the mood for this World Cup than anything previous.
Really looking forward to seeing some of these places being used, especially the more unfamiliar ones and those with interesting surrounding landscapes.
Cheers. Love it.
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